Do you focus you emotional energy in a relationship on being smarter, stronger, and right? Many of us are not even aware we are doing it. Think back, when was the last time you said you were sorry to someone, admitted being wrong to someone, or acknowledged hurting someone’s feelings without giving an excuse about why it happened.
Category: Emotional Intelligence
There is a difference between crisis management and regular problem solving. Crisis situations like loss of a home, death of a loved one, loss of a job, or loss of a relationship are defined by the acute pain they cause. The flooding in Montreal caused over 700 people to be forced from their homes, creating a crisis situation for the city.
Difficult decisions are difficult. When people tell you to just decide, they are not taking into consideration all of the elements that go into making a decision. The problem is, if you are not sure about all the elements, you could fall into the trap of believing that you are the only one that struggle to make decisions. Trust me, that isn’t true.
Anyone who has ever tried to get a song out of their head knows that once you brain decides to focus on something, it is really hard to change that. So, when you brain believes negative things about your or your environment, it sticks.
It is important to understand that anxiety has a very useful and important function. Anxiety keeps us safe. Without Anxiety, we would not run away from predators, we Read more
If I don’t like me, no one else will. So how do I deal with the day to day activities that I must engage in life. Don’t show who I am. Present a better, more acceptable version of myself to the world. You know, always put that best foot forward!
Wanting to be liked is normal. Wanting to be liked by everyone is unrealistic. In an effort to be liked by everyone, we inevitably ignore the fact that we are striving to be liked by people that we do not actually like.
There are power differentials in every relationship because no two people are the same. Whether we are talking about a friendship, a family relationship, or a spousal relationship, someone has more power and influence.
Happiness is the goal, but you are in an environment where you are constantly put down, threatened, excluded, and made to feel you are not good enough. You feel afraid, hurt, embarrassed, lonely, … bullied.
When we think about bullying, we often think about school. We may have been bullied there or seen our peers bullied. But we often do not associate bullying with adulthood.