Need to be Liked by Everyone? – 5 Problems with People Pleasing
Wanting to be liked is normal. Wanting to be liked by everyone is unrealistic. In an effort to be liked by everyone, we inevitably ignore the fact that we are striving to be liked by people that we do not actually like.
This inability to manage rejection actually puts us in a negative situation with many of the people that we interact with on a regular basis. How genuine are our actions? How are we perceived by our peers? What are you doing to be liked by everyone?
Keep in mind, it is better for you emotional health to be in relationships with people who like you for who you are than to be in relationships with people whom you’ve gained in your life by being excessively giving. These people will expect you to continue to give but have not real commitment to you or your well being. Having a small group of friends with similar interests who find you fun to be around has more value than having a large group of friends who are with you because you are very generous with your time or money.
People pleasing puts you in a position where you put everyone's needs before your own and yet feel taken advantage of. A respectful relationship is born out of treating the people in your life as an equal, rather than putting people on a pedestal. Let people like you for who you are, not because you have "bought" their affection. Here is a book that explains how people pleasing will affect your relationship with others and how you can learn to set appropriate boundaries:Canada: http://amzn.to/2wsAv3kUnited Kingdom: http://amzn.to/2xd0OrKYou can find Violet here: www.violetreveira.comAll product links are amazon affiliate links. Thanks for watching Violet's Practical Help.
Posted by Violet Reveira, Psychologist on Tuesday, December 5, 2017