Perfectionism and Anxiety – The Imperfection of Perfectionism
The idea that anything can be perfect … so frustrating. We want things to be the best that they can be. But will that be perfect. Nope. So trying to attain perfect, inevitably results in negative emotions.
People who focus on doing things perfectly (and I do mean focus on it), do that to avoid negative emotions associated with failure. Unfortunately, failure does happen. So, in this quest to be perfect, you fail. Leaving you feeling horrible. And in everyday circumstances, you fail, because failure is normal, and you feel horrible.
The answer, so simple. Accept that failures happen. They do not need to feel devastating. They are normal after all. But when you accept that sometimes you will fail, you aren’t surprised by it. And you are ready to learn from it and move on.
Often when anxious people try to achieve, their focus is often on perfection. Perfect is not attainable and when you try to attain it, it leads to feelings of inadequacy and frustration. Here is a book about coping with perfectionism:Canada: http://amzn.to/2wSjzndUnited Kingdom: http://amzn.to/2k0XdtHYou can find Violet here: www.violetreveira.comAll product links are amazon affiliate links. Thanks for watching Violet's Practical Help.
Posted by Violet Reveira, Psychologist on Tuesday, December 5, 2017