Perfectionist Trap – How Trying To Be The Best Can Ruin Your Life
The perfectionist trap is so seductive. Who doesn’t want to be at their perfect weight, have the perfect relationship, with perfect friends, and the perfect job. When we daydream about how we want our lives to look in 5 years, we rarely envision health problems or fights with our friends. And that’s what a daydream is supposed to look like, right?
In our current reality, how well does it mirror our daydreams? How do we feel when our current reality does not mirror our perfect vision for how our lives should proceed? How much energy do we continue to put into trying to make our life look perfect when things are “normal”?
It’s a trap people! No matter how much you get “right” there will be more you can do to make it better. That’s the nature of life and living. So rather than try to push for perfect, we need to learn to be happy with what is working in life and accept our limitations. There is no such thing as a perfect life.
Chasing perfect causes people to amplify their faults and ignore their strengths. The idea that nothing but the best is worth showing to the world means that many of our actions and attempts need to be hidden to preserve the illusion of perfection. This causes the perfectionist to constantly feel like a failure.Here is a book about coping with perfectionism:Canada: http://amzn.to/2wSjzndUnited Kingdom: http://amzn.to/2k0XdtHYou can find Violet here: www.violetreveira.comAll product links are amazon affiliate links. Thanks for watching Violet's Practical Help.
Posted by Violet Reveira, Psychologist on Tuesday, December 5, 2017