Bullying – Why Do People Do It
When we think about bullying, we often think about school. We may have been bullied there or seen our peers bullied. But we often do not associate bullying with adulthood.
I find that interesting because it certainly happens in adulthood. Have you ever seen someone pressuring their spouse to do something that they did not want? Have you ever seen someone relentlessly making fun of a friend? Have you ever seen someone pointing out every flaw that a coworker has to other coworkers? Have any of these things ever happened to you? These are all examples of bullying.
As a community, we can decide to ignore bullying or to do something to stop it. I suggest that we start by correctly naming bullying and then try to understand why it happens. All too often we try to fight fire with fire. In the case of bullying, attacking someone who clearly has their own issues is not the answer. But action does need to be taken. When we understand why someone does a behavior, the answer becomes more obvious. Let’s work together to stop bullying!
People bully others because they are trying to feel superior. We often believe that bullying only occurs in schools but in fact, adults also engage in bullying behavior. Being bullied hurts. When someone hurts you repeatedly, it can affect your self esteem, your self worth, and your confidence. Many victims of bullying become depressed, anxious, and even end their lives. If you see bullying, stop it. If you are someone who makes jokes at others expense, pushes the envelope to make others feel uncomfortable, "speaks your mind" no matter how people react, you may be a bully. And if you are behaving like a bully, maybe you need to ask yourself some serious questions. Let's work together to end bullying.Here is a book that explains how we can work together to end bullying:Canada: http://amzn.to/2gTQCwoUnited Kingdom: http://amzn.to/2jfCX74You can find Violet here: www.violetreveira.comAll product links are amazon affiliate links. Thanks for watching Violet's Practical Help.
Posted by Violet Reveira, Psychologist on Tuesday, December 5, 2017