Violet’s Practical Help Videos

Psychology for Everyone

New Media Platform – Violet’s Practical Help is Now On Facebook

Hello everyone,

As some of you are aware, my videos are no longer being hosted on YouTube. I have been in the process of finding a new place to post my videos so that I can continue to provide you with quality content on a regular basis. I will be moving my videos to Facebook and put them in my blog as I have been doing. I am currently in the process of replacing all the broken links in my blog, which is actually taking longer than I anticipated. I hope that you will bear with me while I get my blog back up to date and then I will be able to resume filming new content to continue to help demystify psychology.

Thank you for your understanding,

Violet.

Why People Lie – The Truth About Lies

No one wants to be called a liar. Your reputation determines how successful you will be in business and in relationships. So why do people lie?

There are many reasons that we lie. We affect other people and they affect us. We want to be connected but we also want to be free to engage in our life the way we want, with no responsibility to other people. Lies allow us to avoid being responsible and to conceal behavior that we may not be proud of.
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How Lying Affects Relationships – Trust is Essential in Relationships

Interpersonal relationships are so important. Having people in your life is essential to feeling connected and happy. When we have trouble in relationships, it affects our mood, our feelings of success, and our interest in activities.

Our connection to others is based on our ability to share and receive information with them. Sharing information with someone takes trust in their respect for your Read more

Montreal Flood – How We Manage a Crisis vs Long Term Problems

There is a difference between crisis management and regular problem solving. Crisis situations like loss of a home, death of a loved one, loss of a job, or loss of a relationship are defined by the acute pain they cause. The flooding in Montreal caused over 700 people to be forced from their homes, creating a crisis situation for the city.

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The Path of Least Resistance Hinders Success – Valuable Outcomes Take Work

Hard work. Something that many of us associate with school, career, and family life. We are taught that we need to put in effort to reap the rewards of life. But on a practical level, what we often see are people looking for the easy route. The “for Dummies” line of books is a perfect example. We want the answer pre-packaged and delivered to our door with no effort required. How does that affect our psyche?

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Understand Your Passion – How to Find Interest in Life

What is interesting about people who are passionate about something, is that they can often tell you when they became involved in the cause or activity and why. That often gives us the mistaken idea that you need to already know that you are going to be super involved in something before you begin it. Interestingly, the average person engages in hobbies that are accessible to them. So, on some level, your opportunities to be passionate about something are going to be limited (initially) by what you have easy access to.

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Working Hard to Achieve Your Goals – Uncertainty Is Addictive

When something is desirable and easy to attain, we do it. If something is desirable and hard to attain, we work for it. What happens if something is desirable, hard, and and possibly unattainable? We work even harder! Maybe is like an ignition button. It starts our desire to achieve. The more uncertain the desired outcome, the harder we work.

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